What’s more stressful than going through a divorce?
It’s getting a divorce while you’re pregnant.
Sure, fighting with your husband over who gets what and over child custody (if you already have kids) is taxing enough – but try doing it while dealing with Braxton Hicks contractions. All the typical stressors of divorce are amplified by the emotions of bringing a child into the world. Plus, a baby on the way further complicates the divorce process.
Recently, R&B singer Keke Wyatt announced that her husband Michael Ford was planning to drop her while she’s eight months pregnant, after he allegedly cheated on her. The two have been married since 2010, and already have eight kids—including one from Ford’s previous marriage and the one they’re expecting.
If you, like Keke Wyatt, are going through a divorcing-while-pregnant situation, here’s how to handle it:
Get a Support Network
Don’t be afraid to ask other people for help—whether that’s family, friends, or even co-workers. This can help you cope with the emotional and financial impacts of divorce.
Filing pro se (in one’s own behalf) can be a big mistake as well, as you may end up overlooking important considerations in a divorce settlement. Lawyers at Shaynelaw.com suggest hiring a divorce attorney, especially if your soon-to-be ex-husband has representation.
Read Up on State Laws
Some states don’t allow divorce during pregnancy, while others don’t finalize a divorce until the child is born. Your situation might delay your divorce proceedings or stop them entirely. Therefore, before getting yourself caught in the filing of numerous documents and the search for a good lawyer, read up on state laws.
If your state does not allow divorce during pregnancy, you can continue with a legal separation but you may need to wait to complete the documents.
What should be one of the happiest events in your life can be overshadowed by the divorce. But right now, you must try to tough it out by reading up and getting a solid support network for your welfare and the future of your child.